Talking with another person or people is how one expresses and exchanges personal ideas. The conversations with a guy you’re interested in need to remain engaging if you want them to go on forever and can’t get enough of him. And that doesn’t involve nakedness (although that is a matter of personal preference). However, this conversation is about additional, less PG ways to have an ongoing text or in-person conversation.
Tips On How To Hold A Long Conversation With A Guy
Get Learning About His Favorite Topics
It is acceptable to draw ideas from a list of the “10 best conversation starters,” but it is dangerous to assume that you are aware of his interests. It may not be entirely true of your guy just because someone said that men are sports freaks. You never know how much he despises his obsession with sports, and discussing Manchester United vs. Chelsea nonstop will accomplish nothing. So, before you launch into a carefully thought-out conversation, find out what his favorite subjects are. For instance, you could inquire about his interests. It’s a great place to start a conversation if he watches a lot of movies. His passion for social work and politics may also make for interesting conversation.
Express Yourself
You should then feel free to express yourself because you are interested in the conversation. Keep your responses from being muted. Be expressive, show empathy when called for, smile and laugh when appropriate, and let your body language and facial expressions follow the flow of the conversation.
You should share your thoughts and opinions on the discussion’s subject. Share your personal insights and goals as well.
Ask About His Job And Workplace
Work is another frequent subject that can keep a conversation going even when there isn’t much else to say. If the man is an adult professional, he spends the majority of the day at work. Naturally, he has a lot to say on that subject. The projects he’s working on, his difficult boss, a coworker who makes life easier for him at work, or something similar. He might also eagerly delve into intricate details of the current project he’s been fervently working on if you demonstrate a genuine interest in it. You might also end up being his preferred go-to person whenever he needs a listening ear for work-related issues that he is unable to discuss with anyone else.
Ask Him About His Family Background
Asking about his earliest memories will help you get to know him. However, don’t prod too much. If he is open to discussing it, find out what he remembers from his early years and inquire about his upbringing.
Has he got any siblings? Are they close, and what do they enjoy doing when they get together? Are they far away, and how difficult is it to be apart from them? Because who doesn’t get sentimental and happy to share family stories about the people closest to him in the world?, this will make him feel nostalgic and eager to share.
As long as you do this, the conversation will flow naturally and you’ll soon forget you’re on a first date and assume you’ve known him for some time.
And you can tell you’re with a good guy when being around him starts to feel so cozy and comfortable.
Be Genuinely Into Getting To Know Him
Don’t enter this with the intention of making it all about you. The fact that this man may have goals, aspirations, and interests that you may not share shouldn’t prevent you from getting to know him, however.
If you want it to work, both of you must be genuinely interested in every facet of him. What does it matter if he has a crazy obsession with video games? You probably have other interests that he wouldn’t find interesting.
Allow him to charm you with his words and prod him to share with you what motivates him to wake up each morning. Learn about the guy, what makes him tick, and what his absolute favorite thing is!
Every great conversation starts with that. Allow the other person to speak freely, and if you want him to reciprocate, be prepared to join the conversation.
Ask More Questions Based On His Answers
This is a piece of fantastic follow-up advice for how to continue a conversation with a guy after the first one: when he answers one question, use his answer to ask another.
He is unaware that you aren’t doing much sharing in the conversation. As opposed to that, you’re making him talk about himself. According to science, talking about ourselves is incredibly uplifting. in one study, researchers discovered that talking about yourself lights up the parts of the brain that respond to taking drugs, having sex, or just eating good food.
Ask And Talk About His Interests
For a guy, it’s most comfortable to be questioned about his interests. It’s easy to picture him jumping right into the query as if he had been waiting for the chance to talk with you about it. Do not hold back your responses or facial expressions as he discusses his interest. There may be things about him that you both find interesting.
It is an opportunity to criticize it and pose more inquiries about it. You can discuss your interests with him as well. This keeps the discussion lively and engaging. Discuss his interests, favorite TV shows, sports, expectations, and other topics. Commonalities in ideas and thoughts are what make for good conversation. Asking the other person about them or finding out if they have any questions for you about you is the best way to keep the conversation going. Even guys can benefit the most from this. There is always a topic for conversation.
Repeat The Last Thing He Said
Keeping up a conversation with a guy can be easy with this cool tip. Just repeat what he just said if you’re having trouble thinking of something new and interesting to discuss!
If he mentions some crazy adventures he went on or a dangerous hobby he loves so much, repeat the last sentence in an incredulous manner.
He’s going to speak up and elaborate on the subject while grinning slightly. Although it seems ridiculous, it actually works. It gives the guy a sense of masculinity and gives you a chance to think of something intriguing to say next.
Don’t Be Afraid Of Silence
Understand that on a date, you don’t need to talk at every pause. That can be difficult when you’re anxious, particularly if you like to talk a lot (aside from being around hot guys).
Spend some time chewing your food or enjoying a drink (because ladies don’t talk with their mouths full of food!). Give him a chance to respond to what you’ve said. Avoid interrupting him frequently before he has a chance to finish speaking because some guys need time to think things over before speaking.
Share Your Own Stories
Getting the guy to talk about himself and his aspirations is a good place to start. Do not, however, forget about taking care of yourself! Be ready to be vulnerable because he wants to learn everything about you.
Share light, enjoyable anecdotes and stories from your life to keep the conversation friendly and casual.
Tell him about your home, circle of friends, and place of employment. Let him know you don’t take life too seriously by sharing your funny awkward moments with him.
What Not To Do To Keep A Conversation Going With A Guy
Let’s talk about a few topics that shouldn’t be discussed, especially if you’re on a first date or exchanging texts with a man. We’ve focused exclusively on what you should do to pique a man’s interest.
Don’t Talk About Money
A further piece of advice for learning how to maintain a conversation with a guy is as follows: don’t talk about money. Don’t inquire about his income. Keep quiet about your enormous debt to him. It shouldn’t matter when you’re just getting to know someone because these are next-level issues.
Finding Mr. Right will be much more difficult if you judge men solely on their ability to pay their bills. That’s right, how about for now you just get to know him. How important is his salary if he has the personality, appearance, and chemistry you desire?
Don’t Talk About Your Ex
It should go without saying, but you’d be surprised at how many people, both men and women, will bring up their ex-partners during a date. They might just say something matter-of-fact about them (My most recent relationship lasted four years.) or even get nasty and bitter (that f#$ing bitch took all my money and my favorite T-shirt from the band Counting Crows!). The person you’re on a date with won’t think highly of you either way.
Sure, after you’ve gotten to know each other, you can delve into each other’s romantic past, but not just yet, am I right?
Don’t Talk About Politics
I understand that there is always a topic for discussion given the current state of politics, but save your rant for your friends rather than the new guy you met at the bar. I am aware that some people list “Not a fan of [insert your least favorite politician]” on their dating profiles, and that is acceptable because it reveals your political allegiance. However, most people don’t find discussing politics and current affairs to be sexually attractive. He might feel inferior if he learns that you know more about something than he does, which would ruin the date.
Again, save this loaded gun for later in the relationship when you can handle this kind of discussion.